開年

年初二的早晨，一家人差不多十時才起床，真是睡得痛快。我們往麥記吃早餐，看聖經，三口子分享聖經的信念，然後在十分清靜的公園邊行邊祈禱。到了籃球場，我們玩三人籃球，最後玩比賽，以10分為勝，爸爸對兩母子，賽程緊湊激烈，爸爸3: 0領先，母子組追至 3:3，跟著是8:7領先，爸爸追至 9: 8，母子組追至 9和，決定贏2分方為勝，母子組竟然入了多一球，最後，也是最興奮的一刻，就是兒子入了決定性的一球，母子組以11:9勝出了！雖然比賽過程里，爸爸沒有太認真阻礙入球，母子組也曾出茅招捉住爸爸， 但mark球搶球時也很氣喘，母子組是十分落力和投入的，而且最鼓勵莫過於兒子入最後一球。當我假裝記者訪問兒子學習了什麼時，他說：「原來每人有他的個人能力。」在訪問中，母子組將進軍美國NBA，爸爸則往澳門接受反茅策略訓練。開年，開得很開心。
coach Selene

Confidence Coaching

Building confidence is in the mind or attitude rather than in skills. Coaching is one of the best ways to help rediscovering the confidence what seems to have disappeared. People who often lacking confidence are high achievers and they feel their works never good enough. The fact most have ability to carry tasks to a very high standard but not good enough only to themselves, therefore giving up. So confidence is a mindset matter rather than skillset. Therefore I don't have a list of skills to give or steps pertaining to build confidence. However, since confidence can't be taught but appreciate through experience of successes, we could coach people ( assuming they want to be coached) to set goals, take actions and enjoy the fruits of their actions which in turn make them feel good, thereby rebuilding the confidence. So it's a simple process of commitment by the coachee to set goal, take action and repeat and apply them to other endeavors. Only the coachee could make it fly.

SK

Mindset

Read a great book called Mindset, the New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck. The book rekindles many coaching concepts that have been using by coaches. Mindset determines the success of many endeavors that at first appear in futile but by having a growth mindset helps people to tackle these futile hard works as learning experiences. According to Carol, parents usually over praise their children performance and brilliance and ignore praising their efforts and hard works that contribute to the successes. As a result, children feel gifted are not willing to try again after failing. There's one misconception that if they're so brilliant they wouldn't have to do things many times. By continue trying signals they're not that brilliant after all. That's one of the resaons many children don't want to try again and again after failing. But the truth of the matter is the mentality of continue trying and putting efforts is the key to most successes, not the sudden brilliance.