Saturday, August 20, 2005

PCA was featured in HKICC


“Easy Parenting” – Exciting Night! by CXC Secretary Nana Wong

CXC is a subcommittee of HKCC. It offers a free talk series to promote coaching services in the mainstream local community.

On August 16, CXC has successfully delivered its first CANTONESE ‘Free Talk Series’, named “Easy Parenting – Turn Scars Into Stars” by Bonnie Chan and SK Shum. Even though it was extremely heavy rain, we still had 14 participants attending the workshop.
In the workshop, Bonnie and SK led us to look at parenting from different angles. Awareness was the main point brought to the audience. Participants were very active in asking questions and giving their opinions and suggestions. The participants were set up into two groups. The first group discussed how to be a good parents; another group discussed what kind of parents will we need to be so our children are proud of us. The results of group discussion were fruitful.
The feedbacks from participants were very positive. They found this workshop was very useful and they suggested discussing more in the future. Such as

“It creates awareness and enables exchange of ideas.”

“It facilitates extensive experience sharing among participants.”

“Discussion topic reached the purpose – awareness”

After this first successful workshop, CXC will continually organize more free talks to public.

Link to HKCC website: http://www.coachinghk.org/cxc_easyparenting.htm

Wednesday, August 17, 2005

Easy Parenting


ParentCoach Alliance 親子教練聯盟於八月十六日在銅鑼彎首次為香港專業教練協會主辦的廣東話工作坊中,和十七位參加者,一起討論了「令子女引以為傲的父母」的質素。當日沈士基教練及Coach Bonnie共同帶領整個過程,目的是透過Coaching的相向參與及個人內省的實際體會,使參加者可以在個別Parenting的現狀情況中提高自我意識,並作出適當的自我改變。

參加者分成二個小組:第一組以子女的身份去找出他們會引以為傲的父母的質素;第二組則以父母的身份去找出他們會令子女引以為傲的父母的質素。結果是非常接近。

其總括如下:


  • Walk in the Talk 表裡一致

  • 尊重子女,給他們安全的空間及環境,讓子女去嘗試真實的人生

  • 有愛心及無私的關心4. 懂得溝通,並就子女成長中不同的階段,作出相應的溝通模式

  • 要Update;無論對時代的潮流及自我偭值的提升及学習

  • 懂得信任、欣賞自己的子女,而不是Judgmental

  • Playful, Trustful and Never give up their kids

大家更認同提高了自我對Parenting的意識後,重要是如何去建立一個在各家庭成員中有共識的目標,並持着一個有信念的Committed Decision 去行出每一小步。大家更察覺到一般失敗的原因是:



  • 外在環境的不利澡音

  • 知而行不出來的無力信念

  • 家庭成員中的不同步作為父母的參加者

他們認為首先要在Parenting的態度上來一個自我檢討:



  • 放下自持為父母的高高在上的尊嚴

  • 放下對子女過高的期望

  • 向教練及朋友尋求幫助

  • 早日開始行動、早日可結果子

Parenting是一條長而不短的人生旅程,亦是一個相向的親子關係。兩位教練希望透過這次工作坊,各家長可以體會到Easy Parenting的精要是,你如何Enjoy這個過程。


Parenting 尤如 Coaching 一樣,裡面包含着:



  • Live in the Present (Here now)

  • Raise the Awareness

  • Clarification

  • Non-Judgmental

  • Listening

  • Environmental Building

  • Partnership

  • Clear Communication

  • Let Go

  • Celebration

願每位參加者可以繼續使用ParentCoach Alliance的平臺,互相交流、勉勵及多認識Coaching對Parenting的有効及長遠的作用及果効。


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