Parental Control

What is one thing that most parents fear – losing control! To lose control it’s a scary experience when we in our life learn to take control of everything. We take control of our parent as infant ensuring they will be there when we are hungry. Although we don’t know how to say it, we sure were an expert of getting their attention by crying or tantrums. By retaining their attention and getting them to do what we want is very a fine example of controlling. As we grow older, we exercise control whenever we can to get our way. If we are not getting what we want, there is naturally tendency we will be anxious, frustrated and angry. We fight back and resort to the skills we learned, we fight, we threaten, and we nag until we get what we want. All these are no more than forms of controlling.

Think about a situation that you will lose control and let others to determine your way of doing, we feel anxious as if part of you are falling in a deep void. The tendency to control is vividly imprinted in our DNA that when we become parents, the same things that we want to control our children. So it becomes a struggle to tell us; I’m doing it for their good. As result, we struggle as a parent wanting in control but acting as if we are doing it for children’s sake. But we know in the end it’s their life and they need to make it on their own. What a way to struggle! I guarantee that’s how things operate most of times in parents’ minds