Gottman's four horsemen that surely bring an end to a marriage

Four Horsemen that surely bring an end to a marriage

Read John Gottman’s “Four-Horsemen of Apocalypse” in which he heralds four factors that will inevitably end couple’s relationship – criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling. How many times we couples are using one of if not all these horsemen to ensure winning of verbal battle against your spouse. You might win a battle but lose a war. Professor Gottman remarks most healthy couple usually has 5 to 1 ratio to say positive things compared to negative comments. Healthy couples will conscious be aware of these four horsemen, ensuring that they would not be used as often to harm the relationship, particularly for those couples who have married for a long time taking their spouse for granted, trumping these horsemen in a battle, eventually making all losers with no winners in sight.