Tips being effective parents

Reread parental books in preparation for my thesis. Messages being effective parents keep appear in texts, which could be summarized as follows:

1. Talking friendly with kids - Sound of autocratic and dictatorial parents becomes more and more things of the past. Friendly voice tends to cultivate better communication with children particularly to tweens. As long as maintaining dialogue with kids, we stand better chance to communicate our feeling, thoughts and actions. Friendliness does play a key role in parenting nowadays.

2. Be both firm and kind - When parents decide upon a course of action. They must not vacillate and they must remember to be friendly, non-judgmental and matter-of -fact when applying consequences.

3. Keep your cool - Kids often try to control by getting your attention by tempting various acts to upset you. In other words, they have your buttons and they know when to push them. Responding with anger only fuel heated situation that could spring beyond parent's control. The parent stands better chance of succeeding with his child by remaining cool and matter-of-fact attitude.

4. Utilize encouragements - Parents can encourage children by recognizing effort and contribution not on results. Too focus on results will discourage children because there are often better results ahead. The non-stop chasing of finer results is primary cause of discouragement for most children, resulting kids from stop trying. Encouragement should be given even the child is not entirely successful as long he tried hard.

5. Use logical and natural consequences - Misbehaving children so often not benefit from punishment. Research after research has proved the fact punishment leads to inertial. Instead parents must allow children to experience reality's lessons through the use of logical and natural consequences.

6. Continue learning- Parents must become life learner themselves to be effective as parents. New parental skills may not work at first, but one needs to be patient and rework the skill repeatedly and parents may find one day these skills once being mastered, it becomes very effective in dealing with children. Parents must turn to learning mindset instead of mere relying on conventional wisdom in dealing with kids